Acceptance to reality- is being positive.

Acceptance to reality- is being positive.

Stay positive and be optimistic and everything will change for better someday!

We all must have received this well-meaning advice more than once in our lives.

But, does this mechanism really work that way, even now? Doesn’t it appears to be wishful thinking directive to unrealistic circumstances capable of wreaking havoc in life.

Negative Experiences- Yes , they are important to have .

Bad experiences in life can also be helpful in one’s life. I have personally helped so many people in my life who were in the same situation in life, through my learnings from the hard times and life altering experiences of my life. They are important because they lead you to self exploration and makes one tough.

If any of the readers, is going through some hardships or unhappy times in their lives, my urge is to please stay kind to yourself, giving all your attention to that problem will only attract misery and take a break .

Telling yourself a different story just as a means of staying positive  without separating the facts from fiction is not going to help. Having  acceptance towards the reality- That is being positive. Just be ready to welcome the sun , once the cloud disappears and the sooner you do so the sooner it appears.

So live in reality.

Work Relationships Or Keeping to yourself

In this blog, I have attempted to identify the wrong box  in relationships that possibly people follow as they get older in an organization.

1. While the new employees are very determined to achieve their goals and targets as they join the organization with a clear mindset that there are certain task, assignments or targets that they need to accomplish for which they are hired , while the older employees focus majorly on relationship building  taking their work for granted . This should be a nay , because it is the work and the accomplishment of organizational goals that should be a priority at any point of time and relationships build over it .
2. Some leaders/senior employees are of the opinion that any organization requires their knowledge, craft, skills from them and don’t give any importance to relationship building at all. Being older in the organization, they don’t make any effort to connect with the other employees especially the ones from other department. This is also a nay, because it is through one’s connections outside their team and department that actually help one to grow and explore as they connect with people having different skill sets, job responsibilities etc.
3. Some older/senior employees value, respect, and considers worth connecting to only their peers or superiors. While people from their team or their direct reportees don’t have any relationship with them. They don’t know their team members , if he/she is a parent or not? No personal details are shared  with each other. This should be a nay too, because, ones relationships with their subordinates and team members is very important in getting the best out of them.
4. Some senior employees/managers are so much obsessed with their own skills and crafts that they always crave for being the smartest in the room . This trait mostly causes a disconnect and is an obstacle in relationship building with team or subordinates.

I think whatever one strategies to be, however keeping to your self is not a solution to avoid the negative impacts of work relationships , rather it will limit the opportunities to grow and make an impact.

Truth about Lying in a Relationship

Lying has become so obvious casual matter that nowadays, in our day to day interactions we don’t hesitate , rather are so habitual to half-truth and ignore that it is also a half lie.

There could be multiple reasons of why do we lie at the first place, which may not necessarily be all negative, or to hurt and deceive the other person. Many a times, people lie because they think telling the truth will hurt their loved ones. However, just give it a thought, is it not better to be slapped by the truth then to be kissed with lies.

With such distractions all around us , distrust has become obvious.I don’t want to write about how sometimes, offering truth with selective disclosure or artistically , I can say bending and stretching the truth , or dressing things up to make them sound the way we want them  can be in the interest of everyone .There are many articles and blogs on which can list the circumstances when it is okay to lie.

Though almost in every religion, it is said to be wrong to lie .I wonder what  the use of any man or being is, whose words can’t be trusted.

I believe when a person lie in a relationship the actual culprit behind it is “Ego”. It's important to discover yourself. We are so powerful and intelligent that we don’t even spare ourselves from tricking to believe something which is not true probably we are too scared to face the consequences of believing and standing by the truth.

We all are afraid of aloneness,the terror of which causes vulnerability and sometimes becomes the weakest link from where it gets through and start flowing in our veins so intimately that we don’t recognise it . It means the ability to lie . We need to accept and understand that in reality aloneness is the totality. Once we become comfortable with it and let our-self flow into it , it causes awakening and it is so beautiful. The truth is that most of the time , we are left on our own and we must come out of that old way of thinking that the life is on the verge of chaos.

So there shouldn't be that  need to pursue or lie because the best relationships just happen without much efforts. And they reveal themselves. Beloved is not chosen rather needs to be recognised. Man is for god and Woman is for god too . Consciousness never suffers.

Whenever we trick ourselves to lie, somewhere deep inside our mind it says that we don’t want to do it,but we do and we suffer.

So what to write more on this. No matter how cautious you are you will get caught.